From a post here
When you leave the church, it’s possible to hear comments like this directed at you:
- You’ve ruined our eternal family.
- It would be better if you died than left the church.
- Your children need the church in order to make good choices.
- That [bad thing] happened to you because you left the church
- You’ve been deceived by Satan.
- You no longer have the light of Christ.
- I pray something will happen to humble you so you’ll come back to the church.
- You must have done something wrong. Did you cheat on your spouse?
In case you experience this, here’s some responses you can keep in your back pocket:
- You are welcome to think that about me. I’m comfortable in my decisions.
- I understand why you might see things that way.
- Thank you. I’m sure you meant that in the kindest way possible.
- I’m sorry to hear that’s what’s going through your head.
- I can only imagine that it’s hard for you to understand where I’m coming from.
- If you’re hurting for me, I want you to know I’m at peace. If you’re hurting for you, I hope you can find comfort in whatever way works best for you.
- It must be scary for you to see me leave the church. I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time making sense of all this.
- You sound worried. I know you wouldn’t worry if you didn’t care.
- There may not be anything I can do to that would lead you to see me differently, but if you ever want to listen with an open mind, I’d be willing to share my journey.
- You might be right. If you are – that’s fine. I don’t need to be right.